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Shy Cuties Need Love Too: 5 Dandere Otome Guys

If you’re just joining the party, this is the fifth post in my Character Archetype series, where I spotlight five otome LIs from each of the major character archetypes. These posts are a complement to my Beginners Guide to Otome Games posts, particularly the one on Common Character Archetypes in Otome Games. There I give a very general rundown of the most common character archetypes that appear in otome games with a few examples of characters that fit each trope.

I know it’s been about a year since my last archetype post (my bad), last time around I covered one of my favorite character archetypes, Kuudere characters. Which you can check out by clicking the link: ‘A Little Tough Love: 5 Kuudere Otome Guys’. This time around I’m covering the cute and shy dandere character types!

The Basics: What Are Dandere?

Dandere comes from the Japanese word “danmari” (黙だんまり) meaning “silence”, and “deredere” (デレデレ), which means “lovey dovey”.  These characters are quiet and antisocial, and are often described as being emotionless. Dandere characters are often confused with the kuudere character type, as both archetypes describe characters that are perceived as being distant. When pushed a kuudere character has absolutely no problem talking, usually in a very direct manner. On the flip side, dandere characters will go out of their way not to talk and when they do talk, they become extremely flustered and it can be hard to make out what they’re saying. 

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The big take away from dandere characters is that their aloofness stems from their shyness. They are typically, very slow to open up to people, especially strangers and it can take quite some time for a dandere to warm up to a heroine. Dandere are often described as being gloomy and may have a low self-esteem. 

Senri Ichinose Norn9

Senri – Norn9

When I think of a classic dandere characters my go to is always Senri from Norn9 Var Commons. He’s pessimistic and gloomy and just all around an unpleasant person to be around and generally prefers the peace and solitude of his room. When he does interact with others, he is extremely antisocial and distrustful of those around him—and it’s only after Kakeru destroys the door to his room that he is forced to hang out with the rest of the passengers on the Norn, including Koharu. He doesn’t have a lot of experience with girls, so he finds Koharu’s constant attempts to engage him both frustrating and he’s often seen blushing when she does anything especially sweet. 

I will fully admit that Senri was a bit hard to place since he does have a lot of kuudere-esque tendencies—he’s a cold shut-in who wants nothing more than to be left alone—but ultimately his aversion to people and general awkwardness felt more in line with a dandere. 


Kouta Meoshi Sweet Fuse

Meoshi – Sweet Fuse

Meoshi is practically baby’s first dandere—he is an antisocial neet who gets flustered at just about anything and when he does speak it’s mostly incoherent whispered muttering. When ever he has to work with the rest of the group on a task, he breaks out in a cold sweat and does his damndest to escape the room—usually resulting in him having to be forcibly dragged back. Meoshi is an avid gamer and is well known online as the player Ares, who dominates most fighting game tournaments, and as a result he has amazing reflexes which comes in handy as the group works through Hogstein’s traps. He can be a bit of a defeatist, which definitely brings down group morale during some of the more intense moments of the game and his lack of physical strength makes him more of a liability than an asset. 

It takes him a while to warm up to the others and even then he still gets flustered when having to voice his opinions, though he does get more confident as the story progresses. Meoshi is really smart and more often than not has really good ideas, he just lacks the confidence to speak up for himself. 


Nageki Fujishiro Hatoful Boyfriend

Nageki  – Hatoful Boyfriend

I will try to keep this as spoiler free as possible, because Nageki’s route is a bit of a doozy and that says a lot considering how wild of a game Hatoful Boyfriend is in the first place.

So, Nageki is a mourning dove and one of the first year students at St. Pigeonation’s, he is very quiet and can often be found in the library reading a book. He prefers being left alone over spending time with others and gives off a rather gloomy vibe when approached. Usually he doesn’t talk much, but when bothered he can get pretty incensed, especially if there’s someone disturbing the sanctity of the library. He doesn’t really have any friends. 


I Love You Otome Game Kirishima

Ritsu – I Love You! (Suki Da!)

I love me a blushing boy in glass~ Ritsu is a third year high school student and a member of the Calligraphy club. While he’s technically a year older than the MC in the game, he’s a bit on the shy side and prefers to keep to himself—you can usually find him in the library or in the cafeteria snacking on his fave, matcha pudding. He is terrified of bugs, nearly jumping out of his skin at the sight of a dead cicada. Ritsu is easily flustered and quickly becomes a blushing sputtering mess when embarrassed (which happens often). 

When he finally works up the courage to confess to the MC he actually cries, the poor dear is just too pure for this world. He must be protected at all cost~ 


7 Scarlet Toa

Toa – 7’Scarlet

The emotions from this route are still pretty raw, TOA DESERVED BETTER!! His true ending broke my heart into a million pieces and I am still not okay. Toa is a cat loving otaku who has a hard time interacting with other people. He is very soft spoken and shy, and he avoids eye contact with people when he talks to them. Toa is a bit of a klutz and when we first meet him in the game, it’s after he trips over his own  two feet. He gets winded fairly easily and he is extremely nearsighted, so he has to wear super thick glasses. Despite the summer heat, he wears a thick padded kimono, because it makes him feel safe. 


What I Like About Dandere

  • When you get to know them, dandere are some of the sweetest, most loyal lovers
  • It’s so rewarding when a dandere character finally gains some confidence
  • Their blushing, there is just something adorable about a flustered, blushing boy

What I “Hate” About Dandere

  • Shy boys need a bit more effort to open up, which can be a bit frustrating
  • They can be a bit cold (much like kuudere) and that can be a bit off putting. 

I can’t say that Dandere characters are my favorite of the archetypes, but they do have a lot of good points—they are super cute when they’re blushy and flustered. Having to work to break down their defenses and getting them to warm up to you requires a special degree of patience and dedication. But, once you successfully get a dandere to open up to you, they are extremely loyal and you’ll be surprised that some of them can be pretty adept at teasing~

This is where I turn things over to you dear readers. Are you a fan of dandere characters? What are some of your favorite dandere characters and what is it that you like about them? Let me know your thoughts!

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  1. What a lovely post! That was a fun/emotional read (and thanks to you I now know why I ended up liking Ritsu from Suki Da! so much. Figures.)

    Hhhhmh, in regards to your “why do you like them” question, I’d say… personally, tsundere are among my least favourite tropes, because I don’t like the idea of an MC having to wear the LI down and driving themselves mad trying to figure out how they feel (no shade to tsundere lovers, yourself included ^^; diff’rent strokes and all!). But I mention them because I’d consider dandere at the opposite end of this particular spectrum in a way. MC will still need patience and understanding to get a dandere to open up and communicate with them in a meaningful way – the “special person” angle is still there, as is the investment in the relationship developing –, but because the entire world rather than MC is the problem, MC will be less likely to internalize any communication issue as being their fault, as is the risk with tsundere (and, although to a lesser extent, kuudere) characters.
    Counterpoint, though: because MC tends to be the better-adjusted person out of the two, a kuudere route might involve a real unbalance in the power dynamic between them, which tbh I’m not a fan of (unless it’s the whole point, like in Suki Da!). It’s ok if your kuudere is just a blushy weirdo and otherwise more or less functions in society, but I felt really sorry for Senri throughout – and Nageki, though for different, spoilery reasons – to the point where engaging in romance felt a bit like taking advantage to me. Which is why endings where the kuudere gains some measure of independence are definitely the best kind.

    As for very favourite types: shameless flirts and wholesome himbos (are those a genki subtype? a deredere subtype? who knows.) I’m very much into subtlety apparently. 😀

    Also: “The emotions from this route are still pretty raw, TOA DESERVED BETTER!! His true ending broke my heart into a million pieces and I am still not okay.” HEARTILY SECONDED. (。•́︿•̀。) Toa is best boy and deserves all the love, and this route should come bundled with a support group membership.

Gush about cute otome boys~